Like a mullet, business in the front, party in the back.  A company where we say "we are professional but cozy." So we write professional emails and then connect with you on a deeper level by saying "fuck this shit" in sessions cause you need to hear it and frankly, we need to say it.

Which leads to the question, why do we shame cussing?  Especially as therapists.  With our clients or ourselves?  Like it isn't a normal part of speech for some or most people. (I get this wont reinstate with all.) (AND I am not saying drop cuss words all the time, nothing is all/nothing in life if its healthy theres balance) But I watch my interns struggle because in schools they are docked points for trying to build rapport and connect with clients on a language level. Then they come to the private practice and are shown another way that is hard for them to compartmentalize. (well with this one anyways) I am as successful as I am because I allow human connection on a therapeutic level to outweigh this desire to fit a mold.  Why do we as therapists try to fit a mold?  We are not on the Sopranos for crying out loud. Something to think about, we tell our clients to not fit molds, be themselves, yet we, ourselves try to mold. (well, I guess some do, I do) For what? For why?  If we cant be authentically ourselves, how can we expect our clients to be?  Modeling behaviors is a thing we don't give enough credit for in a therapeutic setting.  An intervention...so to speak.

AGAIN, I am not saying all therapists this will relate to. But for therapists like me, an ADHD one, who's trying to unmask, where I have never really fit into the mold of life, why would I expect myself to fit into the mold of the traditional therapist?

​1.) Todays bonding incase you need it:  I live a life where "its do what I say and not as I do." I WORK A LOT.... This isnt ok. I know this. But I am also out to change the world and I feel the hands of death creeping with age. BUT...Burn out is real and hyperarousal is real.  It's ok to have downtime. I need that reminder.  You may too... Also, according to my partner, he says I hit this lap top keys to hard...any one else a loud typer???
2.) Todays lesson:  Slow down, find things to be thankful for. In a life full of negativity, find gratefulness. Its not cause its the season, its because without it, life is bland (season, get it.....)
3.) Todays affirmation: Its ok to be unique, to be me.  

Trying something new. For a therapist who clearly doesn't already have enough on her plate. (insert sarcasm, my second degree) And in this world where we already can feel broken.  I figured why not try an additional resource for you. And honestly. Myself as well.

A blog where community can come together (if you want, you waive all right to confidently if you do...so don't come at me with any lawsuit with my weak ass insurance policy HA)...
Back to it...where a community can come together to see that a therapist, who supervises, runs a business, has a family and partner, etc...can also be a mess but embracing the mess so you can too.  (sometimes, sometimes, I cry.......but I'll NEVER let you see it darn it!)





​A blog meant to laugh, inspire, teach, and just be....real. 

I think to many therapists try to act like they have it together. LIARS.  We are in this field for a reason.  WE at times also feel broken. Lost. Sad. Confused. Overwhelmed. Disorganized.  Happy. Content.  Confused. Wait, I said that already.  But you get the point.

1.) Todays bonding incase you need it:  Screw google docs! Technology is stupid and you're not alone. 
And teen daughters are NOT for the weak. (I wont cut her, only because I love her so intensely....AND for mandated reporting requirements, that was a JOKE...see below if you want for a laugh, because REPEAT after ME "if we dont laugh....we cry")
2.) Todays lesson: It's ok to go with the flow. Sometimes you intend to do something (like a stupid employee handbook) and life says HA! But it still ends up beautiful in its own way, failure is only defined by the definer. YOU.
3.) Todays affirmation: We can do hard things.  WE CAN. No matter what the asshole brain of yours wants to say. SO. Do it. The hard thing.